Walking Away

I know we have all asked ourselves when a person has enough of an unfulfilling relationship. When do we decide that we can’t take it anymore? I realized that walking away, just like loving someone, is a process. Sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing either of the two until it’s already done.

So when a friend wants to know whether they should stay or leave, how do we give advice? Because I believe that mostly our advice comes from logic rather than from emotion. It’s rare that we give our friends or loved ones advice from an emotional point of view. Yet the person that we give the advice to is reasoning with emotion.

I have a friend who is in a relationship that is obviously not working for him. I see it and reason from my mind, telling him to just walk away, but he is still staying. I wanted to know why, until tonight I didn’t quite understand. This has been bothering me a lot, especially today.

I believe that if I have to look for the person that I fell in love with, the relationship is of no use to me anymore. yes, we change because we are living beings, but I don’t think it’s fair to have to be in a relationship where we have to search for good times.

I reckon when we love someone, we give them everything. And as time goes by and they hurt and disappoint us, they give our love back, bit by bit. Until one day we find that we have nothing more in common with them. They had given back to us all that we had entrusted them with.

Like two boats at sea without oars we drift further and further apart, until we can no longer see the other boat. That is when we are walking away. We always think that the person we love is going to be there, we might just find that the person has drifted out of reach.

Taking care of relationships is a full-time job, so is ensuring that walking away is not happening, by either party. Careful, because your partner might just be doing exactly that.