The One

Does the one exist? Is there a perfect partner? Do we have our Adam or do you have your Eve? How does one know when you have found the one? We are always in search of the perfect one, who will love us unconditionally.

In my one blog I said that I would return to age 17 at any given time, because I thought I knew it all. So if The One exists, how come our requirements and expectations change and grow as we get older? We need more stability and care from our partners and I’m not only referring to women now. When I think of some of the guys that I have dated in the past, I find them lacking, immature and impatient. Not at all as stable and determined as I want my man to be and I believe that the same can be said in your case. That is if you haven’t found your life partner.

I believe that the one is a choice. Every day you have to decide whether or not you want to be with the person you’re with. The person you are with and profess to love will always have competition out there. There will always be someone smarter, sexier, cuter, more beautiful, more intelligent, wittier and kinder than your partner. There are times in relationships that we have tiffs, disagreements and fights. In these times you can’t exactly tell me that you still see stars in your partner’s eyes. During these times our commitment to the relationship and the person is put to the test.

It’s most difficult to profess love for one another when we don’t see eye to eye. That is when I believe it’s a choice to make someone the one. You make a choice to be faithful, monogamous, true and trustworthy. I know we have a least once experienced it that a perfect stranger caught our eye. Or there are even times when we think we feel attracted to someone that we have known for a while. It then when you make the choice whether to chase the 20% or be content with the 80% that you have.

As we get more settled in our relationships, the great hot, wet, passionate, spontaneous sex dies away and we get comfortable with each other. It is now no longer new to us to have the other person so close and naked. Just like everything else that was new and exciting at first, the one also is. It is much rather what you do with the old and lived in relationship and person. The choice is yours or you could use the rest of your life looking the one.