Taking back me

As I sit here tonight there are many things going through my mind. I was wondering to myself what I should put down on this blank piece of online paper and then it dawned on me, my feelings are the best thing. Now I write about love and most of all the things that we do or don’t do in love but today I want to write about the things we want to do when inlove and what we seem to compremise when inlove.

We forget who we were before we met the people we let into our lives. We forget the things we used to do. Now I have said before that you should be good to you but how many of us actually do that? Not many and I can say that sometimes I too forget that being good to me comes first beforwe anything else. I get upset with myself because I just seem to let myself slide every now and again and then it takes a compliment from a complete stranger to make you realise that you truly are beautiful inside and out( YOU KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT SO DON’T PRETEND YOU DON’T) You walking through a mall and from the corner of your eye is this guy or gal just staring at you. Now you think that they are probably looking at the Gucci shades in the window of the shop behind you, so you brush your hair aside and smile… you know that shy smile you reserve for those odd drunk moments in a club when you trying to get the attetion of another drunk guy or gal. They smile back and it comes crashing down on you like cascading waves that… DAMN!!! He( or she) is actually looking right at me. So you smile that shy smile again and walk away still brushing your hair back. That is that rare moment when you realise that, wow, I am actually that cute to someone. But why? because you forgot that you are a being of substance and beauty and you still posses that look that demands attention. Now I am not saying that we all realise that but what I am saying is that a moment like that should slap you straight back to reality and make you realise that just because you are with someone doesn’t mean you put those Nine West pumps way back in the closet and you hide that sexy little number… (you know the one you wore to your friend Deborahs cocktail party and that lawyer took your number?) No way no how!! As females we should realise that even though the one you are with doesn’t appreciate your pink lipgloss or the way you cross your legs when you sipping on a martini, there is someone out there who sees you for the gorgeous, talented and briiliant being you are. And yes, sometimes we as females forget it but let me just say this… don’t. you are too beautiful and too wonderful to let that getb you down. You’re a diva in your own right. You demand respect and attention and don’t ever forget that. So whether you are inlove, out of love or just what I call stuck on stupid( you know what it means by now) you still have a right to embrace that freak in you and step out with your best Aldo forward.

No one can take away that flame within you unless uyou let them. It is a command from the Gods who gave you that zest, that gorgeous body and that killer smile. It is a command that you be sexy, feel sexy and act sexy. Remember that the way you feel inside is how everyone sees you. So no matter how hard the love life gets remember to keep that chin up and step out with that smile that makes the guy at the coffee shop always want to give you extra sugar( free or not) You owe it to yourself to always keep it real. Be you no matter what the situation. They don’t want to be change. The age old excuse is : You found me like this baby, why would you want to change me? Well toss him that same line the next time he asks you why you wearing something he thinks is too sexy.. I am just saying take back the power you possessed and if you didn’t have that power then it is time you took it back now. Not only for you but for all of us! We are women in a generation where we wear the pants… Oh yes and the tie and the shirt so let us wear them with pride. I say this not only to you as my sistas and girls and cousins but I say this to myself to. Let us not sit back and wait for it to happen. Go out there and make it happen like never before. We are coming with hunder and whoever is outside when the storm hits better watch themselves!!!

So ladies, divas of this century. Keep yourself no matter what. Never loose your essence. Toss your toys out the cot, make a scene for bad service, buy shoes you know you cannot afford!!! Your a woman with style and vibe and let no one tell you any different. I will leave you with this: “I am determined to always retain my mischievous inner youth”- Allison DuBois

That’s it from me. Go and conquer!